Queer sex is magical and so are you
Queer sex has transformed how I view my body, sexuality, and pleasure. I was conditioned to have sex that often left me feeling undervalued and misunderstood.
I was taught to be hairless, thoughtless, and hot above all else.
Queer sex is the antithesis of everything I was taught about sex.
Queer sex is about embodiment and pleasure. It reminds me of when I naturally learned my body was a magical space that holds pleasure as a child.
Most of my sexual experiences with men have felt performative and exhausting. Of course I didn’t realize that in the moment because I didn’t know there was another option.
I didn’t realize there was another way to approach sex until I embraced my queerness.
I started practicing centering my pleasure before I came out as queer. Though when I started intentionally exploring my queerness….centering my pleasure intensified.
Queer sex centers pleasure over performance.
My body’s natural sexual exploration has been queer…until I was told to suppress it. From suppression came performance which lead to years of disembodiment.
For a long time I wasn’t an active participant in my own sex life. I was merely a sexual object being used for men’s orgasm.
Queer sex is collaborative and explorative.
I don’t analyze my body as much when I’m having queer sex.
It’s hot when my stomach jiggles when I’m leaning over my lovers’ body.
My flaws under the patriarchy are what make me beautiful during queer sex.
Queer sex has encouraged me to center my orgasm. I don’t even need to advocate for my orgasm because I’m so valued and held within queer sexual experiences.
I’ve also learned that orgasms don’t equal sex.
Sex equates sex. Sex is however I define it. Sex is however you define it.
Queer sex doesn’t demand sex has to just happen between body parts. There’s no shame or weird stigma for needing a vibrator or toy to experience pleasure. In fact…the more support the better the sex.
Queer sex has never been about women pretending to be men because of someone wearing a strap on. Though my internalized homophobia used to think this once upon a time.
I've come to understand that being physically intimate with a man who doesn't value me feels completely different from being with a woman who genuinely wants to see and connect with my soul.
Queer sex is spiritual.
It’s not about how you look or how others might perceive it.
Queer sex is about energy and intentionality.
Queer sex feels devotional like a church service.
Queer sex focuses on after care and foreplay. It’s not about rushing and moving so quickly you forget there’s another person involved.
Queer sex has reminds me of my own inherent self worth.
Anything I’ve been shamed or outcasted for is an opportunity for queer sex to praise instead.
I am worth the time and effort it may take to orgasm.
I’m worth using my voice to express my desires and what I need from another.
Queer sex is magical…and so are you.
Happy pride month bbs.
